Eli Rallo’s Rules for Flirting, Relationships, & Loving Yourself (Flashback Friday)

Solo Episode

Oct 16

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#342: This week, we’re bringing back one of our favorite conversations from February 2024 with writer, content creator, and author Eli Rallo. Known for her refreshingly candid takes on dating, relationships, sex, and self-worth, Eli joined Josie following the release of her first book, I Didn’t Know I Needed This. Josie and Eli get into the dating advice that actually matters: why rejection can be a gift, how to stop putting so much pressure on finding “the one,” and why building a life you genuinely love might be the best thing you can do for your love life. Eli also shares how to flirt without overthinking it, the mindset shift that makes first dates way less intimidating, how to recognize when a relationship isn’t right for you, and why you have to be willing to break your own heart sometimes. Plus, the “F me sweater,” why a first date can really only end in a second date or a good story, and the relationship advice that still hits just as hard today. Whether you’re single, dating, in a LTR or simply working on your relationship with yourself, this episode is full of reminders you probably didn’t know you needed.

CHAPTERS:

00:20 - Introduction to Eli Rallo

02:15 - Why rejection can be a blessing in disguise

05:20 - Breaking free from shame around sex and sexuality

12:45 - Eli's rules for romanticizing your life

15:10 - What makes a relationship successful

19:30 - Why you should stop searching for your soulmate

23:10 - How to prepare for a first date

26:15 - Finding your confidence and learning to flirt

32:00 - How to know when a relationship isn't right

37:30 - The importance of being your own best friend

39:00 - Rapid-fire questions with Eli Rallo

RESOURCES & MENTIONS:

I Didn't Know I Needed This by Eli Rallo – Eli's book about dating, relationships, sex, and navigating your twenties.
City of Girls by Elizabeth Gilbert – Eli's favorite work of fiction.
Books by bell hooks – Mentioned as a resource for understanding feminism and sexuality.